Abuse and Violence in Queer Relationships


Something on Twitter triggered me, it was a thread about the title of this post. It prompted me to take a moment out of the usual violence we face from outsiders and take a look within. A few years back a friend was in one of those #RelationshipGoals relationships everyone aspired to have. They had broken social constructs in a…

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HomoSEXuality: The “Lesbian effect”


So I met a boy… It was one of those nightclub electric meets that are very rare in our circles. We had consumed little alcohol (I was on my first cider) but that spark, that electricity, it was too much to deny. So we are on the dance floor and I am in my most masculine attire, and we click.…

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The problem with Township Pride


Last year while doing my hair in preparation for the Mdantsane Pride, my hairdresser made a homophobic remark, she said “You are going to that circus?” I met her last week again and she made a similar statement about the queer community. This made me sit down and try and dissect how she and others refer to us and our…

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Welcome: In death can come life


Sometimes death makes us sad, as it takes from us and leaves us with little or nothing at all. Today I write with a sense of sadness, as death has come and taken from me. I write with sadness in my heart but it’s a window into my thoughts, thoughts about why I do what I do and why I…

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